I have lived through my young 22 years of life pleasing people and for the rest of 2017, ISSA DUB (slang translation: I will no longer do such act).
The entire month of February has been beyond difficult for me. Doing things for other people and being miserable. Trying to reach impossible standards and being molded into something God never intended for me to be.
I’m over it.
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.
The NLT version of that same verse says:
Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant
So why do we feel like we need to please people?
It clearly states when doing so we are not serving God.
I don’t know about you but my purpose IS to serve God, so the opinions of others are irrelevant.
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,
- Acts 5:29ESV /
But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men.
All of these verses have the same context, we were created to please and serve God.
Living in a strict Haitian household did some damage growing up but it also helped me to deal with daily life struggles. My parents had to earn everything they have and they passed down that worth ethic to my siblings and I. but being the youngest, I also felt like I had something to prove; that I had to be the exact replica of my older sister because she could do no wrong in their eyes.
I tried. Over and over and over again. And failed.
I couldn’t live up to their standards and in being disappointed in myself, I acted out. I hung out with the wrong crowds, seeking attention elsewhere.
Those friends only filled that void for a minute then it went away. It took me a while to understand Matthew 6:33.
God is the only person that can fill that void for me.
God is the only person that I should strive to please.
I didn’t only have that problem within my own family but with boys as well.
I hit puberty at an early age and boy started seeing me from the neck down. Now I wasn’t what you called “fast” in the old days, but I was a terrible flirt. I thought the attention they were giving was because they loved me.
The amount of boys I thought was going to be my future husband is just ridiculous (Thank God for growth right?).
I don’t blame my family or anyone really for how I felt (and still battling with). This is something that I need to constantly be at the feet of the Father for so I am focused on his kingdom at all times and not the opinion of others.
I know it is hard but think about it..
The people who are putting so much pressure on you don’t truly understand or even care to understand how this is affecting you. So why are you stressing so much to please them?
Are they paying your bills? Feeding you? Taking you to heaven with them?
The answer to all of that should be no.
God is the answer. He is the ONE and ONLY person that should truly matter.
When we obey his commandments, it shows how much we love him (John 14:15).
I want to please God so that when I go to heaven, he can call me his faithful servant.
I wish the same for you.
Heavenly Father, I come boldly before your throne. I want to thank you for allowing me to see the light of day. Forgive me for the sins that I have committed against you, known and unknown. i ask for your protection for myself and for everyone that I come across. Lord, give me the strength to continue to live for you. To only serve you and not men. I want to be your faithful servant all the days of my life. In your name I pray, Amen.