Being so far from my own blood sister was really difficult for me. We lived 5 hours away from each other and it bothered me. But, I had a degree to obtain. I had a few friends but I know from experience that friendships don’t last long. So I was on a hunt for something more. Not only was I looking to ‘fit in’ but something that would make my undergrad experience memorable. I wasn’t the most outgoing person and believed at the time, I had any talent so a lot of groups were crossed off my list. I didn’t want to spend another year doing the same routine of going to class, work and church. That was boring and I am far from that.
On April 8, 2014 I found what I was looking for. I was officially a member of Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc. I found more than sisterhood; I gained a family.
During that time, I met some amazing people and memories that will last a lifetime but nothing too solid. I lived in Canada and most of the members lived in the U.S, which created difficulty to keep long-term friendships. My experience wasn’t always rainbows and glitter. There were times when I wanted to give in but I learned to not quit.
The moment I truly gained some real sisters was this year. 2017 has been a emotional roller coaster ride. There was some sunshine (married, baby and job and many more) and there was some rain and during those times, my sisters held me down.
No judgment, just love and support.
I’ve always struggled building relationships with other women and I was scared to open up, but they made it really easy for me. I am one of the youngest out of these group of women but they treat me like the adult I am.
They inspire to be great and lift me up when I need it.
I couldn’t be happier to have them in my life.
To my sorors,
I love you. even though we live all over the country, I know y’all will be there for me no matter what. Thank you for inspiring me to better myself, to love myself and BE myself. I am so glad that Nugget has aunties like you all.
I mention of all this to say, in 2018, know who is really for you. The length of a friendship doesn’t matter. You can meet someone and instantly bond like you’ve known them for years and they are the main ones supporting you, whereas your ‘friend’ of 10 plus years always makes excuses as to why they cant support you and your dreams. Keep your circle small. If they are not adding on to your life, let them go, sis, because not everyone can level up with you. Celebrate the ones who are there and keep them for a lifetime. True friends are hard to come by.