Have you ever interacted with someone that always spoke about their accolades as a child or how much of a good person they are? Or because they see themselves as a good person, they deserve good things to happen to them?
I have and realized, 1) that’s me and 2) they (I am) are seeking validation from mankind and not secure in their (my) identity.
I googled the definition of validation and none of it matched what I felt on the inside. I used to look to others and simple things in life to find my identity. I now know who am I and whose I am so why do I feel less than? Learning to love yourself is a daily battle that a lot of people face and I want you all to know, I have been there.
Majority of my journey has been talked about throughout various posts, about not loving my skin, being used by men, feeling invisible in my own family, the list goes on.
Honestly, those experiences affected me in such a huge way but I want to turn them into something positive (kinda why I started StolenQueens).
The Word says in Genesis 1:27
So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.
What does that mean to you?
It’s amazing to think that God loves us enough to be created in His likeness. Think about, WE WERE CREATED IN GODS IMAGE. I will forever be mindblowned about that fact alone.
1 Peter 2:9 says
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.
Honeyyyyy, we are far from regular, shmegular individuals. We are royalty. We are daughters and sons of the Most High. We don’t need to look for our identity in anyone else but our Heavenly Father.
I know in this day and age, the concept of comparison is so high. We see these people get famous off of Instagram and somehow end up on Love and Hip Hop while we are working 9-5. We bust our behinds daily and try to look for a quick fix to get money or become famous.
Seeking validation in others will only lead to disappointment because you can never truly live up to their standards. The only standard that matters is yours and God’s. God says
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” (Jeremiah 1:5)
You don’t need to prove to anyone on how great you are! You were created for a purpose. Continue to mold and perfect your gifts and they will flourish. You are worthy. You are beautiful. You are amazing. You are destined for greatness and success.
Let that light shine.